In the United States, 42% of first marriages, 60% of second marriages and 72% of third marriages end in divorce. But what causes these once-happy relationships to sour? Here is a look at the six most common reasons for divorce.
Most couples have an expectation set during the marriage vows that their spouses will “forsake all others” as part of the marital agreement. When this does not happen, a deep wound is created. Often, this then escalates into a “what’s good for the goose is good for the gander” situation where both parties are then cheating. This type of situation is difficult to repair, and couples often choose to divorce.
Lack of intimacy
Sometimes, a spouse doesn’t have to cheat to become cold and distant with his or her partner. This lack of intimacy also wears down the couple’s commitment to one another and often leads to divorce. A lack of intimacy is often tied to poor communication.
Insufficient financial provisions
When couples marry, there is often the expectation that both partners will contribute financially to the marital estate. If one (or both) spouses don’t make adequate contributions, the ensuing financial hardships can drive the couple apart.
The reason for this should be obvious. No one has the right to lay hands on another human being, ever.
Regular misunderstandings and arguments
Along with those who cite a lack of intimacy as an issue, there is also a communication problem. While outwardly it may seem like spouses are talking to one another, quite frequently, they’re not listening to one another. Their communication is going nowhere, and often devolves into name-calling and raised voices.
Incompatibilities in cultural, religious or political beliefs
While some couples blissfully enter into marriage from opposing cultures or religions, time can take its toll on these relationships. When children arrive, or when extended family members consistently interfere in the couple’s relationship, once-happy couples can become exhausted by all the conflict.
Divorce attorneys can help you sort through all the issues involved in your case. Even amicable settlements can benefit from a set of experienced eyes looking at the details.