Parenting isn’t easy. And co-parenting with your ex after a divorce can be particularly difficult. Learning how to navigate some common co-parenting disagreements to present a unified parenting approach is best for both you and your child.
Conflicting views over parenting time
Child custody is one of the most contentious issues in a divorce. When one parent is given custody, the non-custodial parent often feels they have been shortchanged, which leads to disagreements over parenting time. Create a parenting plan with a set schedule, which will help your child adjust. Remember that courts make child custody decisions based on what is believed to be in the best interests of the child. If you and your spouse cannot agree over parenting time, discuss your concerns with a family law attorney who will explain your parental rights and help you to reach an amenable agreement.
Disagreements over spending habits are common in many marriages. When a couple divorces, arguments over spending can increase, even when it concerns shared children. One parent may want to allocate funds for acting lessons and the other parent may prefer to spend money on sports recreation. Furthermore, monthly child support payments may not cover the increased cost of raising children and there are often additional unforeseen expenses, from orthodonture to tutoring. Child support is established by the court, and the court can modify the child support order if needed. An experienced family law attorney can advise you of the best course of action in your situation.
Disparaging your ex
Making disparaging remarks about your ex has a negative impact on your child. Remember that your ex is their other parent, and it is important to do what you can to support your child’s relationship with them. Instead of dragging your child into your post-marital disputes, bring your concerns directly to your ex and call an experienced family law attorney for personalized legal advice.
Different parenting styles
You and your ex may have very different parenting styles, which can make co-parenting very frustrating. Include specifics such as computer time, homework schedules, and bedtimes in your divorce agreement to establish mutually agreed upon guidelines and help ease the transition for your child. An experienced divorce attorney will help you work toward a child custody agreement that addresses your concerns and serves your child’s best interests.